When kids get to a certain age, it becomes more of a possibility that they want to stay home alone (without a babysitter) when parents go out for a short time.  If this is you, then it may be time to have a talk with your parents!

There is no rulebook that lists when it is time to start staying home alone. You could be 12 or younger or as old as 16 before you are ready for this, because it is a very mature and responsible thing to do.  You are in charge of your own person, your home and all decisions for the time you are alone. This is a big responsibility and not every child is ready for it at the same age.

A child must have a mature attitude and be able to make good choices. Parents must be able to trust the child in a long list of areas, including not letting friends in the house, not letting pets out of the house, following rules, being able to handle an emergency and so much more!

Once you and your parents agree that it is time to take on the responsibility and privilege of staying at home alone, it is always best to try it out for a short period of time. This allows both parents and child to see what it is like and can help discover things that need to be talked about more.  All the rules need to be very clear. 

Some areas to talk about:

• Can friends come in?

• Can the child go out?

• Are there chores or homework to do to keep occupied?

• If TV watching is allowed, are there any restrictions on channels or amount of time?

• Is computer use allowed?

• What needs to occur in the home while the child is alone?

• Should the door be answered?

• Should the phone be answered?

• Can snacks be prepared if a knife or microwave is involved?

• What length of time alone makes the child comfortable/uncomfortable?

• Is there a way to get in touch with parents?

• Is there someone nearby that is a source of help?

• Does the child know how to dial 9-1-1 and the times they should do this?

• Discuss safety rules all over the house and for unexpected scenarios. (What if a stranger is at the door demanding you let them in/what if the power goes out/where is the first aid kit?)

If your parents do not think you are ready for the responsibility of staying home alone, don’t worry – it will come eventually. If YOU do not want to stay alone, then parents should respect that decision too!  Talk a lot about everyone’s viewpoint and the result will work for all of you!